"Creating something TOGETHER is better than wanting the same thing. How you handle your DIFFERENCES is more important than finding your SIMILARITIES" - Jay Shetty, Author, 8 Rules of Love
They say that opposites attract. Well, you couldn't get two more opposite people than my husband and I. Yin and Yang. Black and white. North and South. Chalk and cheese. That's us.
I used to have a big problem with how different we were. If I'm honest, I used to want him to be more like me (I'm embarrassed at how ridiculous that sounds). I just thought life would be easier if we had similar interests. Why wasn't he into meditation, and eating "healthy", and self-development? And why wouldn't he just come for a damn walk with me? Why couldn't we even agree on a movie to watch?
I thought it was unhealthy that we didn't seem to have much in common other than having children together; and it worried me. But do you see the start of that sentence? I THOUGHT it was unhealthy. My MIND had a problem with it. My mind was making it "wrong". My heart always said yes.
It's interesting how we give so much authority over to our minds and ignore our hearts. The spiritual teacher and Author of 'The Power of Now' Eckhart Tolle writes "look to your relationships to make you conscious, not happy". Well Eckhart - he's certainly making me conscious!
My husband isn't going to meditate with me on the beach at sunrise, but his presence is so much more than any action like that. His energy is electric. He is so playful - when I can be serious. He lightens me up. He makes me laugh. He's unbelievably loyal and adoring, and he has the biggest, most generous heart you'll ever come across. And he tells me he loves me and how beautiful I am every.single.day. And he's a bloody good father.
How boring would life be if we were all the same? If we all thought the same way and did the same things, we would have no opportunity to learn from each other and grow.
This Valentine's Day, let's celebrate our differences and appreciate the lessons these differences can offer. Celebrate that you are creating a life TOGETHER.